I’ve never liked the game “Would You Rather.” It’s a childhood game that may bring back good memories for many of you, but for me it brings up feelings of fear. For some reason, this type of game always makes me afraid of getting embarrassed. What if I didn’t know what one of the things is? What if both options were terrible and I couldn’t fathom doing either one, what would I do then? So, when hanging out with friends I usually tried to avoid this type of game.
Fast forward 25 years and I am at a children’s ministry leaders meeting and the emcee starts the lunch with an unexpected “Would You Rather” game. WHAT?? Surely there is an age limit to this game, right?! I was pretty much trapped with no place to go. But much to my relief, this version had an unconventional twist to it. It was “Would You Rather…Bible Edition.”
He started the game with two options. “Would you rather be present at Pentecost or present when Jesus appeared to the disciples after His resurrection?” We had a moment to think about it and then we were to turn to our neighbor and tell them which one we would choose and why. It was interesting to see what people chose and their reasons for choosing. Some reasons were simple, and a few people went very, very deep. I decided to just go with my initial thought instead of over-analyzing it. A first for me. Haha! After all, both would have been amazing to experience!
Bring it Home
This got me thinking and it started to change my view on this popular childhood game. That night as we were sitting around the dinner table I decided to ask my kids the same questions that were asked at the luncheon. To my surprise it was a huge hit. The kids were begging for more. Nathan and I quickly thought on our feet and came up with several more options. I loved hearing why the kids would choose one event or situation over another. We talked about how we would feel, how that would have affected us and how it would have changed our perspective on life.
Awhile ago Nathan and I read the book Sticky Faith by Kara Powell, and it has challenged us to think deeply about our parenting. Effective parenting always starts with relationship and conversation. Have you heard that from us before?? Relationship is key to effective parenting. If you don’t have a relationship with your child you can not have productive conversations. Without productive conversation your child is left to wonder about life on their own.
They need you to help them be successful in this life. They need to be able to trust you, and they want your advice. But to get to the point where they will ask and listen you have to spend years building the relationship. Which comes first, relationship or conversation? We say both. You really can’t have one without the other. However, one might be stronger in a given season than another. Build on that and focus on improving the other.
A solid foundation is built one brick at a time. A solid relationship is built one conversation at a time. You can not jump right into deep conversations without testing the waters with the simple and lighter topics. It is hard to convince your child that the Bible has the answers to their problems if you never talk about the Bible. This is where the Would you Rather game will come in hand to get the conversation started. This can be your entry point into having conversations around the Bible with your children. Below is the list of the questions we asked our children. Feel free to add your own! Remember there is no right or wrong answer to any of these. And it is definitely okay for different family members to have different answers – encourage and celebrate it. If you or your children are unfamiliar with any of these Bible stories, use this as an opportunity to look it up together and explore the stories together. Learning together is one of the best ways to build trust and credibility.
This week, pick a time to connect with your child. What are some times and places where you can have some fun conversations with your kids? Pray that these will be the first steps towards even deeper conversations that strengthen your relationship.
Would you Rather: Bible Edition
- Would you rather experience Pentecost (Acts 2) or be with the disciples when Jesus appeared to them after His resurrection (John 20:19-23)? Why?
- Not knowing the outcome, would you rather be swallowed by a whale like Jonah (Book of Jonah) or thrown into the lion’s den like Daniel (Daniel 6)? Why?
- Would you rather see the burning bush talk to Moses (Exodus 3) or the fire consume Elijah’s altar in front of the prophets of Baal? (1 Kings 18) Why?
- Would you rather be an Israelite wandering in the desert (Numbers 14-33) or an Israelite taken captive to Babylon (2 Kings or Esther)? Why?
- Would you rather see David defeat Goliath (1 Samuel 17) or Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego survive the fiery furnace (Daniel 3)? Why?
- Would you rather be a slave in Egypt (Exodus 1) or be persecuted like the disciples after the resurrection (throughout the Book of Acts chapters 7-28) ? Why?
- Would you rather see Jesus feed the 5,000 (Mark 6: 30-44) or calm the storm (Mark 4:35-41)? Why
- Would you rather see Jesus heal a blind man (John 9:1-11) or walk on water? (Mark 6:45-56) Why?
- If you could only see one day, which day of creation would you rather see? (Genesis 1) Why?
- Would you rather experience the flood on the ark with Noah (Genesis 6-9) or walk across the Red Sea on dry land with Moses? (Exodus 14) Why?
- Would you rather eat dinner and have a conversation about trials in life with Joseph (Genesis 37-45) or Daniel (Book of Daniel)? Why?
- Would you rather participate in the Battle of Jericho (Joshua 6) or Gideon’s Battle (Judges 6-7)? Why?
- Would you rather learn about trust in God from Ruth (Book of Ruth) or courage from God from Esther (Book of Esther)? Why?
- Would you rather be one of the shepherds who saw baby Jesus (Luke 2:8-10) or a Wise Man (Matthew 2:1-12)? Why?